The Power of Solitude

When you are in solitude you are in your natural state. There is nothing there to activate your inner wounds; Nobody’s actions, or their words, no one acting as the mirror for what you don’t wish to look at. Unless of course, your primary emotion when alone is loneliness, then spending time in silence may evoke sadness and thoughts of your self-perceived unworthiness. It is then that you might ask why you don’t like spending time with the person that will be with you until the end of your days. Have you created a story around why you are alone, or what it means to be alone, something lacking, with negative connotations?

If spending time with yourself is painful, then spending time with others has the potential to only create more pain dear one. Why? Because they are either a distraction so that you can avoid yourself, they are a vibrational match to your disliking of self or are using you in kind as just a fix for their own loneliness.

Beware of sacrificing discernment for your desire for companionship at the expense of authentic connection. You may just accept less desirable interactions, instances of disrespect both by the other, and violations taken against yourself. Even if it is just the offense of silencing your needs, stifling your power, or foregoing your desires. You may think of that loneliness and vow to never go back there by any means, convincing yourself that the pain inflicted by another is better than the sadness of your solitude.

Lovely, maybe you have chosen too many distractions time and time again, so you don’t have to face the loudness of your thoughts, the sting of your memories, the confusion of where to begin. It takes resolve to say no. To admonish what other people have said, what your charlatan of a mind tells you, and to start to tap your feet dear one to the faint pulse just above your solar plexus that gently reminds you that you are made with greatness and you have been chosen, that you are called to live your wildest dreams. I assure you if you weren’t, you would never have been stifled, oppressed, or misled.

It is unfortunate but beautiful at the same time that life’s strategy is to see what we are made of, if we choose the door of safety and smallness or if we choose to challenge the rules to look life in the face and prove that life is just a tool for our soul and we are not its’ prisoner. We always have the key and we are never alone. We exist in the passing wind, the rustling of the leaves, and in the laugh of a child. Indeed we are in a strange place, but we are only passing through here, enjoy the scenery and don’t go home from the trip having just talked about all of the places you wanted to go.

Stay blessed dear one.

The Grand Illusion

Every day we let the outside world that we live in dictate how we feel. Our experience can begin to erode the strength of the love and joy that we naturally have within. The world can convince us that there is no love. That others are separate from us, just out for themselves, and quite frankly we may not like them much. We can’t trust people not to take, lie, or hurt us. We are overworked exhausted and stressed. We ask ourselves when this will ever end and dream about the day we are finally happy. Sometimes we get a spouse, have kids, or buy new things because we believe we will be happy then. Sometimes it is true, but always fleeting.

I would like to remind you that your mind is the only thing that can dictate, your world view, your interactions, and your peace. Seeking knowledge so that you may understand events that you witness and they don’t confuse you. Seeking knowledge so that you understand your place in the world and how it works. Seeking knowledge so that you can most importantly understand your mind and that it is separate from who you are, and you have the ability to control its unchecked dominion over your every experience.

Our primary aim in life should be knowledge of self.

See we can create realities that don’t exist and we often do every day. Realities about what someone is thinking or saying about us, what they want to do to harm us, or things that we may lose, so we have to be on guard in our interactions. The funny thing is that it also works the opposite way, you can see love in everything, opportunity in everything, beauty in all things. You can tap into your sovereignty at any moment in time and realize that you are the one directing this fine movie dear one. You can easily become fooled to believe you are a character in other people’s films, but that is the biggest deception. To believe you are not the ultimate creator.

You cannot sit down and beg for a shift and beg alone. You must work toward your masterpiece every day, in how you think, how you feel, what you see, and what you allow to be done to you. You are never alone and you are not weak. You are not powerless, you are not what other people think. You are a grand vision that is pleading with you to take the blindfold off. It takes work though lovely a commitment to a never-ending search for the one lost at sea. Just when you think you catch a glimpse it was just a ripple. Keep searching, this, after all, is the only reason you are here for you to remember. It is a game of distractions so that you never will.

External Guidance

Among all ailments of the human experience is the desire to place emphasis on external factors. This includes how others may help us, hurt us, or guide us. We not only seek answers to the most basic questions but also are easily influenced by the smallest external stimuli. It takes work to embrace curiosity. It takes dedication to ask yourself why you are having a particular experience, emotion, or relationship. Especially when most often these involve recurring similarities in outcome or feeling. When we look for others to provide us with answers we seek because we deny our own power to do so, we can be led down any path, even if the path is not what is good for us.

The answers we seek are within, but it is hard to know what is within with too much external stimuli. When we are constantly being fed information through television, cell phones, work environment and we are expected to stay “in the know,” we do not have the silence necessary to look within. Even meditation has been apprehended by capitalism with artificial intelligence and hypnosis. We cannot seem to sit with ourselves for even 5 minutes.

After a prolonged period of time we get further away from knowing how to tap into what is within and so begin to increasingly avoid even attempting it, because it begins to feel too hard. This is why many struggle to even spend time alone, because even starting to dive into what that means and what is going on within feels too difficult and uncomfortable. People don’t know where to start so they rush to distract themselves from this reality with misaligned relationships, inebriation, or other easy distractions; Because who they really are is what is external to them now. But once you make the commitment to choose to discard everything that you have learned you gain much.

There is a reason for fasting. Fasting from food, sex, media, and other attachments allows you to see that you are a divine incarnation with much capability and power, that you create your environment, and are not a victim of it. If you are distracted indefinitely however you will never realize it.

Chasing success at the expense of our internal world is the old paradigm. When we do that, we end up competing for a slot as a slave to someone else that has more successfully ignored their inner world. This is not to say that you can only have one or the other, but unfortunately the reality is that most are pushed in today’s culture to choose.

Choose wisely and be brave.

If you cannot sit in silence for one minute, then sit there for ten. Show up everyday until you can. Or you can live a life of excuses, it is your life after all. Or is it?